@lem0n-curry Hence the problem. I've been playing with my wife, and it was easy to teach my wife (since the two of us weren't limited as a sloop crew). Now it's my wife and I teaching a husband and wife, as is often the case at my age. If it was possible to teach them on a sloop or a brigantine, I would. Absolutely. It would be an awful lot easier (and, honestly, better, since I like the brigantine better as it is much easier to handle and I rarely require a Galleon's firepower).
In fact, the point you made about it being easier to handle is entirely the reason why I ended up having this problem and coming here to see if this had a solution. I entirely, wholeheartedly agree. But the choice is that if all four of us are around, and it's rare any one of us is online without their spouse, Sea of Thieves simply can't be a choice unless we take them onto a Galleon, with the problems you enumerated.
To not do so, as you might have suspected, means that either I'm not playing with my wife, or we're taking one or the other of a husband and wife. And as we're all friends, that's not really something we're going to do. Especially not for Sea of Thieves, where I'm not really interested in building some kind of well-trained power base. We just wanted to sail around in our off time and shoot skeletons.
Were I just some guy and we're talking about three random friends of mine, that might be an inconvenient but easier choice to make; I just tell someone to sit out while the other three have fun. I certainly wouldn't want to do that as it's a relatively cruel thing to do. It's very disappointing that I have to make that choice at all given why the problem exists at all.
Sea of Thieves is frustrating to me for this reason. I really like the process of sailing and playing the game and I want to share that experience with my friends. However, I keep running into design decisions based on criteria that aren't relevant to me or what I'm doing. You can imagine how explaining this to people outside this forum sounds.
And, ultimately, I don't know there's anything to be done. The game probably just isn't built for me or for mine as a social construct, which is frustrating as I really enjoy it when I happen to slide into one of the notches that is carved out. My wife and I had a lot of fun while she was learning, I just didn't know it was arbitrarily because there happen to be two of us and that is an allowed use case.