Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community

I think threads like this contribute to a place being a bubble.

There is no us vs them to me. No checking user accounts or history. No teaching them as if I have some sort of social or platform authority.

I say what I wanna say in good faith and then I head on out when it's time for me to head on out like I did in that thread.

Us regs are hobby posters. It's not like any thread truly harms a hobby poster. Everyone is getting their kicks out of it.

I've posted a lot and I think I'm consistent in how I post and approach things and if others aren't oh well, they get to say their peace too until a thread closes. In my view I'm just a guest contributor like anyone else.

"aren't worth giving time" "best thing you can do for them" "change someone like that"

I'm not in any position of authority on that. In my view I'm just a person talking to another person or making posts that I think will be useful to the thread as a whole for people that read it later on. Like I always say I'm not a teacher or a preacher, maybe they aren't being genuine, it is what it is. I'll try out some posts and see what happens.

Sometimes positive things come from negative beginnings.
I wasn't always how I am, that's true for many, I'll just continue to see what happens, no matter who they are.

@galactic-geek said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@wolfmanbush said:

Sometimes positive things come from negative beginnings.
I wasn't always how I am, that's true for many

While this can certainly be true, it's usually pretty rare. Most negative posts are from the emotional side of things, and rarely consider logic. When they do, however, or when they manage to take a moment, and begin calming down, with let's say a breath of fresh air that helps feed oxygen to their brain so that they can think - then and only then can they start to show an understanding of your feedback. Otherwise, they will continue to dismiss it and defend their own potentially flawed view points.

You mentioned baiting, trolling, and laughing at

They might be fired up and out to cause some cyber raucous but that doesn't mean it's not sincere.

We are all fueled by emotion. Might not all show it the same way but we all have plenty of it as an influence. No real reason to treat it like it's a flaw of another for being a part of their presence. It might lead to some exaggerated and at times insulting reactions but that doesn't mean it's not genuine.

Never really know where another is coming from, what they are going through, what kind of day or week or life they are having.

Maybe if instead of approaching it as if people had insincere intentions it would benefit the forums to approach their thread as if their feelings and frustrations are true to them.

@pithyrumble said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@galactic-geek

you... you're trolling us aren't you?

🥸💜🧜🏽‍♀️🧜🏽‍♀️🧜🏽‍♀️

I know your post is a lighthearted jest but something I'd like to say about the whole loose use of trolling thing that gets amplified on the net.

A person isn't being trolled just because they approach a situation where they view a random person as a person with some form of value, a situation as if it can result in substantive lines of communication, a scenario where benefit of the doubt is exercised.

Within that approach someone may find something as a resource that they can use to help themselves in anything or everything.

Responding openly and honestly to someone that could potentially be "trolling" isn't a loss. There is no internet scoreboard anywhere that holds universal power, it's ok to be real and vulnerable. It might build a bridge somewhere in the void that Stargaze spoke of.

Too much psychology in this thread, someone hand me a Grog and a Cat to pet please....

@fishyjoesalt said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

Too much psychology in this thread, someone hand me a Grog and a Cat to pet please....

"You know it's tough out there, a good muse is hard to find
Livin' one word to the next, one line at a time
Now there's more to life than whiskey
There's more to words than rhyme
Sometimes nothin' works, sometimes nothin' shines
Like Hemingway's whiskey

Sail away, sail away as the day grows dim
Live hard, die hard, this one's for him"

Cheers

@galactic-geek said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@wolfmanbush said:

Maybe if instead of approaching it as if people had insincere intentions it would benefit the forums to approach their thread as if their feelings and frustrations are true to them.

Responding openly and honestly to someone that could potentially be "trolling" isn't a loss. There is no internet scoreboard anywhere that holds universal power, it's ok to be real and vulnerable. It might build a bridge somewhere in the void that Stargaze spoke of.

This is good, positive feedback - but it only works if they're receptive to it to begin with. This thread refers to those who are beyond that stage, or are simply not there at all.

During public discourse words continue to reach eyes and potentially minds for days or weeks/months/years.

This means that even if a public conversation doesn't end up making much of a difference at that specific time it still has opportunity to make a difference to an individual at a different time.

Maybe someone finds something in a post that they find valuable for that moment because it's something they felt they needed to hear that day, maybe they feel a point of view applies to their circumstance and they are able to use something as a resource to get them through something difficult.

People aren't obligated to consider this when expressing thoughts and views or when they are contributing to a thread but it's still there. Life and conversation don't always have to be serious but someone around is always at a time in their life where it is serious at that time. Even if words and sentiments don't reach people that are directly involved they may reach people that are casually observing. In that, effort is never truly wasted. Sometimes considerate communicative contributions are like rain during a drought to someone that a poster doesn't even know exists.

@wolfmanbush said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@galactic-geek said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@wolfmanbush said:

Maybe if instead of approaching it as if people had insincere intentions it would benefit the forums to approach their thread as if their feelings and frustrations are true to them.

Responding openly and honestly to someone that could potentially be "trolling" isn't a loss. There is no internet scoreboard anywhere that holds universal power, it's ok to be real and vulnerable. It might build a bridge somewhere in the void that Stargaze spoke of.

This is good, positive feedback - but it only works if they're receptive to it to begin with. This thread refers to those who are beyond that stage, or are simply not there at all.

During public discourse words continue to reach eyes and potentially minds for days or weeks/months/years.

This means that even if a public conversation doesn't end up making much of a difference at that specific time it still has opportunity to make a difference to an individual at a different time.

Maybe someone finds something in a post that they find valuable for that moment because it's something they felt they needed to hear that day, maybe they feel a point of view applies to their circumstance and they are able to use something as a resource to get them through something difficult.

People aren't obligated to consider this when expressing thoughts and views or when they are contributing to a thread but it's still there. Life and conversation don't always have to be serious but someone around is always at a time in their life where it is serious at that time. Even if words and sentiments don't reach people that are directly involved they may reach people that are casually observing. In that, effort is never truly wasted. Sometimes considerate communicative contributions are like rain during a drought to someone that a poster doesn't even know exists.

Wolfmanbush said calmly.

@galactic-geek said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@wolfmanbush said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@galactic-geek said in Feedback and Suggestion to the Forum Community:

@wolfmanbush said:

Maybe if instead of approaching it as if people had insincere intentions it would benefit the forums to approach their thread as if their feelings and frustrations are true to them.

Responding openly and honestly to someone that could potentially be "trolling" isn't a loss. There is no internet scoreboard anywhere that holds universal power, it's ok to be real and vulnerable. It might build a bridge somewhere in the void that Stargaze spoke of.

This is good, positive feedback - but it only works if they're receptive to it to begin with. This thread refers to those who are beyond that stage, or are simply not there at all.

During public discourse words continue to reach eyes and potentially minds for days or weeks/months/years.

This means that even if a public conversation doesn't end up making much of a difference at that specific time it still has opportunity to make a difference to an individual at a different time.

Maybe someone finds something in a post that they find valuable for that moment because it's something they felt they needed to hear that day, maybe they feel a point of view applies to their circumstance and they are able to use something as a resource to get them through something difficult.

People aren't obligated to consider this when expressing thoughts and views or when they are contributing to a thread but it's still there. Life and conversation don't always have to be serious but someone around is always at a time in their life where it is serious at that time. Even if words and sentiments don't reach people that are directly involved they may reach people that are casually observing. In that, effort is never truly wasted. Sometimes considerate communicative contributions are like rain during a drought to someone that a poster doesn't even know exists.

I like your posts. 😅

But I think it's a bit naive. Though, it's nice to think like that, and it is true, just not mostly true I think.

I mean heck, I got yet another like on the this thread's initial post just before typing up this reply - so yes, it can make a difference for someone. But it still has a statute of limitations, particularly here on this forum. If it's no longer considered relevant by the mods, they lock the thread and it's moved onto the aether. After that, it's likely to never be referenced again. Through a new thread maybe, but not that particular 1.

It's not naivety it's selfishness on my part. It feels better to me to get away from the negative stuff about people.

I spent most of my life fighting negativity with negativity. I'm flawed and full of insecurities and for a long time I produced negativity at the rate I received it, plenty of times even more.

I know how it is, I know how it feels to swing the bat and miss the ball over and over even though it's draining. It's less consuming than the alternative, it's lighter, it's brighter. So I just keep swinging.