I am not sure if this is the perfect solution, but it is a step in the right direction.
I only wish that people arguing against very sensible ideas, would at least present an alternative solution or try their best to be in someone elses shoes.
To @Tesiccl I did take up your suggestion to try LFC ( I did that often when I started, but it was usually to find extra members, not the whole crew). So I joined the SOT discord, all I wanted to do is Reapers - World Events. Seems like the most popular social option? 30 mins in I could not find a single crew looking for a pirate to do that. So my options are play solo (my preference to just chill out without voice chat) - do Hourglass... Obviously it's the first option.
So I have about 2-3 hours before bed I wanna spend on sea of thieves. I log on..several reapers, ok I change servers, more reapers..Change again, empty server! I go do fleets, bam server merge 5 reapers in the server. My session was over in 10 minutes.
Next day, I log in, nice empty server, let's do some merchants. 5 minutes in. A brig starts chasing me. Alt f4, not intersted in this pointless fight.
Another day, I log in, I see fort of fortune is up. I pick up a merchant quest, for some quit sailing. BAM the game sets the destination towards the fort. Ok whatever, I sail, less than 5 minutes into the voyage looking for first birds. A flagless brig and a lvl 1 gold hoarder sloop attack me instead of going after the fort??
Not sure what the conclusion is, but from what I understand - People who only PVE and hate pvp and dwell in alliance servers - sub pirates/ very bad. People who just load the game to fight another ship without making any 'story' - good, you should expect it. I hope you see the double standards as the real PVEVP is super rare these days.
I just don't understand why these pirates are so hostile 24/7 when they can do hourglass or fort of fortune. Just like a lot of players don't understand how someone could spend hundreds of hours in alliance servers and not get bored. Not sure what I would be suggesting here if anything at all, but just pointing out my several experiences over the last month with this game. It lacks chill. ( I made few million on other sessions playing solo tho)