I need some advice mateys - I fear the captaincy update is disrupting our crew dynamic - what to do??
Quick background - I'm the OG of our crew of RL friends/ex-coworkers - I fell in love with the game and kept telling my good friend about it, asking him to join me, and when he did, he too fell in love. He still works with another common friend that we used to play WoW with and she checked it out and fell in love too.
Like a lot of you I suspect, we leaned on the Seas quite a bit during the pandemic and have all been grateful for what it's allowed us. From the start, I've been the mentor and structurer/leader/caretaker of our 2 to 3-a-week sessions. Noticing how much my friend liked to drive, I suggested driving shifts, with my only request being, as captain, I take the first shift to get us underway for the night. We run a democratic ship on pretty much every decision but when snap decisions need to be made, usually under diress from another ship, I often steady the ship and direct the action as needed. In the last couple months, my friend/first mate's son has started playing with us, so lately we've been able to roll full galleons with much success. Our dynamic has been great this whole time but now with the captaincy update, I'm seeing some cracks and it's distressing me out.
In it's runup to launch, I suggested a name for our ship with no pushback, and when it launched I bought and named the 3 sizes of our ship - but my 1st mate says I did that "unilaterally and without discussion". He suggested we should each have one of the ship sizes so as to experience and level the captaincy stuff.
My view - and how I believe the update was intended - was that the captain and crew both level up within those roles and would all crew the same ship(s) so that their career activity is tracked in the log book. Plus it's the fastest, most efficient way to unlock everything any of us might want (which we can all have input on how the ship looks, even though I surprised them with a look for the new ships, something we've liked in the past but now with the other half of the set, of course asking for objections).
So is my 1st mate being near-sighted and a tad selfish about wanting to level up his own ship with what is essentially my crew - not to mention in denial about my defacto captain status this whole time - or am I the crasswhole captain who has this all wrong?
