i suppose ill weigh in here. IF there came an option to turn cross play on or off, far more than half the xbox side would turn it off, and wether or not it is intentional, the community would split drastically.
if half the xbox players turned it off it would still leave a huge player base for pc players. if they intend to someday make it optional they are doing it right by waiting. some of my most regular crewmates are on the pc, so i would most likely leave it enabled unless running solo. i would like to experience a world where all things were equal, and those annoying hopping and spinning and dead eye aiming dudes were somebody else's problem.
i agree with your thoughts here, just thought i would add...
'only a vocal minority are fighting for optional crossplay'
' most/half/majority of Xboxers would leave'. These things keep coming up in discussions but you have to choose, it cant be both.